MOM-FRIEND support

Pour a cup of tea and settle in for a slow moment. Consider these like my letters to you: notes from your mom-friend who happens to be a therapist. I’ve got you.

One of the most shocking experiences of becoming a mom is the scary thoughts that flash into your mind like a lightning bolt. “What if I drop my baby and she cracks her skull?” “What if I accidentally let him slip in the tub and he drowns?” “What if I get so frustrated and shake […]

You’ve heard all about gratitude, right? Maybe you’ve even tried writing down things that you’re grateful for each day? Well, what about self-appreciation? Have you ever made a list of things that you appreciate about yourself? “But wait Kate, isn’t that kinda vain? You want me to write about all the things I’m good at? […]

Do you ever feel like you wake up on the wrong side of the bed more often than not? And that “being happy” is just not something you experience on the regular? Although it might seem like this sometimes, being happy isn’t something that some people have and others don’t (so don’t worry that you […]

You already know that self-care is important, and in fact, a necessary part of a healthy and balanced life. And especially in your role as “mom”, you’re clearly aware that your self-care needs are the first to drop off the priority list when lift gets hectic … which is probably all the time. Now, when […]

Most people would be surprised to learn that more than 10% of mothers experience postpartum depression.  But when you consider that these mothers go through almost 10 months of pregnancy, childbirth, and then an often incredibly challenging year caring for a new baby, the stats become less surprising.  The changes that a mother goes through […]

Let’s face it, we all say things we shouldn’t from time to time. But there are some phrases that can ruin relationships. Here’s a list of 8 seemingly innocuous phrases that you should steer clear of in your relationship (and what to say instead). 8 Phrases That Ruin Relationships 1. “I don’t care” This one […]

And many people are left wondering: Is fighting bad? Is there something wrong with us? And is there a way to fight fair without completely destroying our relationship? You already know the answer, don’t you? Of course there is a way! But unfortunately, many people aren’t equipped with the right skills or mindset to get […]

All mothers know what it’s like to be in the trenches. To be more sleep deprived than you could have ever imagined. To be torn between wanting some alone time yet not wanting to leave your children’s side…caring so intensely about their health, nutrition, how much they sleep, whether they’re comfy, too warm…too stimulated..too bored. Too […]

Arguing with your spouse might be one of the most universal experiences on the planet. And equally common are the problems that emerge from the way we argue with one another. I know you’ve had this experience before, where the actual problem is quite manageable: the REAL challenge comes up when you get tangled up […]

If you google “relationship tips” you’ll almost certainly come across the advice to “never go to bed mad.”   Well, I call bull shit. This old-school advice is problematic for a few reasons, mainly that it completely discounts the value of unpleasant emotions (yup, they have value!). And typically, people end up feeling like they […]

HI, I'M KATE BORSATO

Your therapist friend who refuses to sugarcoat motherhood, isn’t afraid to share honestly about my own messy journey, and I promise not to dole out cliche therapy advice.